The A-M-A-T-S syndrome
I’m sure we have all
heard that saying “All Men Are The Same”
Most women who have had some bad relationships have this opinion
about all men. Some ladies who have been victims of bad
relationships will tell you, that all men are goats/dogs/animals…can you blame
them?
But can this be true that all men are the same? Obviously not…all
men are NOT the same,
Although the "all men are the same" statement reflects
these women's frustration at this and is commonly heard when the men in their
lives exhibit lack (or a perceived lack) of understanding of what/how their
women feel about particular events or situations.
It is true that there are a lot of guys out there with the mind of just ‘testing the water’ but
that doesn’t mean that every guy has ulterior motives.
Dear ladies, let me
keep it real…someone once said the definition of madness is doing something the
same way and expecting a different result.
Come to think of it…
Could it be that the women who make this claim have filtered the men they get involved
with; so, of course, those men actually are all the same?
In computer programming, a filter is a program or section of
code that is designed to examine each input or output request for certain
qualifying criteria and then process or forward it accordingly
Filters in this case could
be things like Looks, Lifestyle, Social Circle, Personality and so on. If you
love dating hunks (which is not a bad thing) and you set that as a filter, you
will ONLY see and be attracted to hunks. If you love guys with cool cars and
you set that as a filter…I’m sure you get the gist.
It’s not a bad thing
to set filters but let it be intangibles like devotion, fidelity, responsibility
and those ‘ultimately’ important things.
Could it be that a large percentage of women that make the statement
are the ones that keep dating the same
type of guy? And when the inevitable break up happens, they complain that
"all men are the same?
There is this anonymous quote
“It's easy to say all men are the
same...but the real issue is, all the men YOU PICK are the same”.
Of course, not every relationship leads to marriage, there will
be disagreements along the way and if they are irreconcilable, people may go their
separate ways. But people should
learn something valuable that will help them in another relationship.
As a lady, a failed relationship should
not just make you bitter, it should teach you lessons. You should not just hold
on to the hurts of the past…the Bible says in Philippians 3:13 “... forgetting what lies behind and straining
forward to what lies ahead”.
You should become a better person through it.
It should help you determine if you have been settling for less
than you deserve.
It should make the picture clearer…the picture of the kind of person
you should be with.
It should help you redefine what you want in a partner and how to
spot these things.
Trust me, there are many great men out there waiting for the
right partner, you just have to learn how to sift through the chaff.
Let me end with this, the wrong guy can cause a woman
to hate all men…However the RIGHT man can show her not all men are the same
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