A lot of African marriages would have been sweeter/better/more peaceful if not for self-imposed and culture-imposed "stakeholders"
A husband almost beat his wife to a pulp because his sister complained about the reception she got when she visited
Some marriages break, not because the husband and wife don’t know how to handle their issues, but because someone else has an issue with the way things are done in the couples’ homes
You hear things like…
“My wife can never talk to me like that”
“My husband will never do that”
“I can’t take that from any man”
“If you are not a bastard, you will go home now and show her who the man is, in this marriage”
“You really let him/her do that?”
“Until your wife knows ‘her place’, I will not come to your house”
“I’m not telling you how to run your home o…but it shouldn’t be like that”
There are homes that stop being peaceful the day ‘Mama’ visits…anytime mama is around, peace goes on vacation
Some men just sit there, while their family members ridicule and humiliate their wives publicly in the name of culture and tradition
A husband almost beat his wife to a pulp because his sister complained about the reception she got when she visited
Some marriages break, not because the husband and wife don’t know how to handle their issues, but because someone else has an issue with the way things are done in the couples’ homes
You hear things like…
“My wife can never talk to me like that”
“My husband will never do that”
“I can’t take that from any man”
“If you are not a bastard, you will go home now and show her who the man is, in this marriage”
“You really let him/her do that?”
“Until your wife knows ‘her place’, I will not come to your house”
“I’m not telling you how to run your home o…but it shouldn’t be like that”
There are homes that stop being peaceful the day ‘Mama’ visits…anytime mama is around, peace goes on vacation
Some men just sit there, while their family members ridicule and humiliate their wives publicly in the name of culture and tradition
Ephesians 5:25 says “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”
Colossians 3:19 says “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them”
1 Peter 3:7 says “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered”
Colossians 3:19 says “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them”
1 Peter 3:7 says “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered”
Sir, be your wife’s first line of defense…be her shield…protect her from external aggression
© 2018 Lanre Olagbaju All Rights Reserved
1 comment:
This is so spot on.
Well said Lanre, thanks for this piece.
Happy Easter to you and yours.
We await new stories from you.
Well done.
xoxo
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