Another word for this is fib
Someone once told me that it is hard not tell lies in
marriage if you don’t want to hurt your spouse.
It sounds logical and makes sense but it is not
scriptural because the Bible says “ALL unrighteousness is sin”
Sadly, I have found myself telling white
lies too
Those “untrue” things that just jump out of our
mouths
“I’m almost there”
“I already left”
“I’ll be ready in 5 minutes”
“No, you don’t look fat”
“It’s not that bad”
“It’s not new, I’ve had it for a while. Just didn’t wear it”
“I only bought it for $50”
“I didn’t know my phone was ringing”
“I’m also just finding out”
White lies infiltrate practically every marriage.
Research shows that most married people tell (on average) one to two lies a
day.
Many of these fibs aren't intentionally malicious. There
are times we tell lies to flatter: Other times we tell lies to avoid conflict:
A lot of times, we tell ourselves that these lies will protect our spouse. We
want them to feel good about themselves or we tell them what we think they want
to hear .
But if we're honest with ourselves, the main
beneficiaries of those lies are us. Lying is almost always about protecting
self: I don't want to be found out. I don't want to fail. I don't want to
disappoint my husband. I don't want to fight.
We've become accustomed to lying. Our culture accepts
white lies and even condones them. People sometimes tell themselves that these
everyday fibs are inescapable and even valuable. But lies, even white ones,
are never harmless.
Lying desensitizes us -Have you even
had to cover up a lie with another lie?
Lying creates cracks in the foundation of trust -
Trust is fragile: It doesn't take much to begin to erode it. You may feel
better in the short term, but lies will weaken trust and security in the long
run. If he's
I know that sometimes total, careless transparency can be
awkward, as well. We shouldn't necessarily say everything that pops into our heads.
This can be just as harmful as lying.
But while we shouldn't be needlessly cruel, we should
strive to be authentic/ real/genuine. We must learn
to fight through the awkwardness of potentially hurting, disappointing or
frustrating our spouse and learn how to tactfully deliver the truth.
If there was a way I could say it without hurting my
spouse, would I lie?
Let your yes be yes…let your word be your bond. Work on effective communication and you won’t
have to lie to get out of trouble with your spouse.
