I can Outsource That

I recently watched an episode of The View where a conversation about women living without men took an interesting turn. Out of 12 women interviewed, only one admitted she could live without a man. This sparked a lively debate among the hosts, with one shading her husband and another admitting she "couldn’t live without her husband because he’s handy and fixes things." 

Cue the punchline from another host: “But you could pay someone to do all that.” It was funny, but also deeply revealing. It got me thinking: how many people truly understand the purpose of marriage? 

When marriage is viewed solely through the lens of utility—what we can "get" out of it—it's easy to conclude that we don’t really need it. 

After all, you can outsource almost anything these days: house repairs, cooking, companionship, even the semblance of intimacy. 

But here’s the kicker: marriage was never designed to be a mere exchange of services. The purpose of marriage runs far deeper than the practical benefits. It’s about partnership, growth, and commitment to something greater than ourselves. 

It’s about walking through life with someone who sees your flaws, yet chooses to love you anyway. It’s about becoming a safe space for each other, sharpening one another, and reflecting something eternal. 

 Sure, you can hire someone to fix your sink, but can you outsource someone who will pray over your soul during a storm? You can pay for companionship, but can you outsource the depth of trust that grows from years of shared joys and struggles? 

The tragedy is that many miss out on the richness of marriage because they approach it with a consumer mindset. What can they bring me? How can they serve me? When the question should really be: How can we serve each other? 

So before we reduce marriage to a transaction or a convenience, let’s pause and reflect. The things we can’t outsource—love, trust, legacy, intimacy—are the things that make marriage truly irreplaceable. 

 #DoBetter #LoveBetter #BeBetter