Silencing the Noise: A Lesson for Married Couples

Who remembers the FOX interview where the guy said "when a man is married to a woman who screams like you they would want to die soon"?

The Bible says in Proverbs 21:19  "Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife."

Marriage is a relationship,  a purpose-driven coming together, not a competition. Yet, in moments of frustration, it’s easy for tempers to flare and voices to rise. Yelling may feel like power in the moment, but it often silences the very message you are trying to convey. It drowns out love, respect, and understanding, leaving only resentment and regret in its wake.

A wise man once said, “Yelling is not a sign of intelligence. That you're louder doesn't mean you're smarter.” The essence of our words, no matter how valid, is often lost when delivered with anger or shouting.

As husbands and wives, we are called to communicate with grace and patience. Ephesians 4:29 reminds us, "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." Our words have the power to heal or harm, to build or break.

Consider this: when communication turns into shouting matches, are we drawing our spouse closer, or pushing them into emotional isolation? Even in moments of frustration, we must remember that we’re not opponents in a debate, but allies in love.

Let us strive to speak with intention, not intensity. To listen more than we yell. To seek solutions rather than scoring points. Because a peaceful home is not built on the volume of our voices, but on the strength of our love and respect.

Reflection Questions:

1. How do I usually respond in moments of frustration with my spouse?

2. What steps can I take to communicate my feelings calmly, even when I feel unheard?

3. How can I invite God's wisdom into my communication with my spouse?

Heavenly Father, teach us to speak with kindness and listen with patience. Help us to build a home filled with understanding, not shouting. Let our words reflect Your love and bring peace to our marriage in Jesus' name. Amen.

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