Not sure why Proverbs 21:19 came to mind this evening...it says: "Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife."
It got me thinking...🤔
There is a beauty that cannot be bought—the kind that radiates from a heart at peace. And there is a weight that no outward adornment can cover—the heaviness of a quarrelsome spirit.
Being quarrelsome is the default mode for some women but the truth is, it fixes nothing. It doesn’t resolve the conflicts; it escalates them. It doesn’t invite love; it repels it. A woman who carries constant strife in her words and attitude unknowingly strips away the very grace that makes her attractive.
Scripture says, "A gentle and quiet spirit is of great worth in God’s sight" (1 Peter 3:4). This is not about silence...it is about strength. It is about the ability to approach conflicts with wisdom instead of wrath, with discernment instead of destruction.
But quarreling? It turns conversations into confrontations. It makes a home feel like a battlefield instead of a sanctuary. Even the strongest love can grow weary under the weight of constant strife.
There are better ways.
- Wisdom builds, but strife tears down (Proverbs 14:1).
- A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1).
- Patience and understanding bring honor, but quick tempers lead to folly (Proverbs 19:11).
The goal is not to suppress thoughts or concerns, but to express them in ways that build up rather than break down. A woman who speaks with wisdom, who navigates conflict with grace, and who values peace over proving a point does not lose her voice—she amplifies it.
True beauty is not just seen; it is felt. It is in the way a woman brings peace instead of contention, in how she speaks life instead of stirring strife. It is in the grace with which she carries herself and the wisdom that seasons her words.
A quarrelsome spirit diminishes, but a spirit of grace elevates. Choose the better way.
#BeBetter #LoveBetter DoBetter #MarriageWorks
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