Marriage Works When You Work It

One can desire the best marriage in the world. One can dream of a love so deep, so pure, so unshakable that even storms bow in reverence. One can long for a marriage where understanding flows like a river and intimacy is as natural as breathing. But if one doesn’t work at it, all that desire is nothing more than wishful thinking.

Proverbs 21:25 (AMP) says:

"The desire of the lazy kills him, for his hands refuse to labor."

And Proverbs 13:4 echoes the same truth:
"The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied."

Desire alone does not build anything...not a home, not a career, and certainly not a marriage. No couple drifts into a strong, joyful, and lasting union. Strength in marriage is not a gift; it is a reward.

This is why I often say: There is no perfect marriage, but there are working marriages—because the parties involved are working it.

Laziness in marriage is like termites in a foundation—it slowly erodes what was once strong, leaving a shell that crumbles under pressure. 

Love must be nurtured. 

Communication must be intentional. 

And conflict must be resolved, not ignored. 

You can’t expect trust to grow if you won’t sow seeds of honesty. 

You can’t expect connection if you won’t invest time. 

You can’t expect intimacy if you won’t be vulnerable.

Marriage works when we work it.

Even Christ’s relationship with the Church...our ultimate model for marriage, according to Ephesians 5:25-27, is not passive. It is an active, relentless pursuit. Jesus gave Himself for the Church, sanctifies it, and nourishes it. That is the posture of a thriving marriage: giving, sanctifying, and nourishing.

So, what kind of marriage do you desire? More importantly, what kind of work are you willing to put in? Because at the end of the day, the kind of marriage you want is only as strong as the effort you invest.

Marriage is not magic. It’s work. And the ones who work it, reap the reward.

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