Don't Sulk...Talk

Dear Married,  don’t SULK, TALK.

We've all been there...silent treatment, heavy sighs; tension thick enough to cut with a knife.

Sulking may feel justified—it might even feel like the only way to make your point. But in marriage, silence isn’t golden; it’s a slow poison.

When issues arise, the enemy whispers, “Don’t talk. They won’t understand. Just withdraw.” But that’s a trap. God designed marriage for unity, not silent battles. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3).

The Danger of Confirmation Bias in Conflict

It’s tempting to look for reasons to confirm your frustration.

“See? They always do this.”

“They don’t care.”

“I knew I was right.”

But when we search for proof that justifies our anger rather than seeking peace, we risk hardening our hearts to the truth of God’s Word. The Bible warns, “The heart is deceitful above all things” (Jeremiah 17:9). Your emotions are real, but they are not always righteous.

God’s Command Is Clear: Talk It Out.

“Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger” (Ephesians 4:26).

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1).

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger… be put away from you” (Ephesians 4:31).

Marriage is not about winning arguments but winning together. It’s about two flawed people choosing love over pride, communication over isolation, and obedience over self-justification.

So today, choose to talk. Not with a tone of accusation, but with a heart of reconciliation. Don’t let silence build walls that love was meant to tear down.

Don’t sulk. Talk.

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