Close The Gap

Most couples start out enjoying each other’s company. It’s as if time flies by anytime they are together. It’s so easy to love each other and spend time together. But it gets to a point where it seems there is nothing to say to each other anymore. The intimacy and trust once enjoyed just disappear; and in its place…fussing, bickering, long silences, and hurried conversations. Boredom instead of excitement. Everything done for the union feels like ‘hard labor’ and the marriage feels like a prison sentence.  

Are you at this juncture in your marriage? The good news is; it is NEVER too late to renew intimacy in a marriage. It starts by closing the GAP between you and your spouse.

NEVER allow a GAP between you and your spouse...a gap only means he/she is slipping away. 

Communication GAP is the most noticeable in MARRIAGE. It is not necessarily caused by distance but it comes as a result of other gaps...like 

INTELLECTUAL gap. 

SPIRITUAL gap 

ACADEMIC gap

INTEREST gap 

PHYSICAL gap 

HYGIENE gap 

FINANCIAL gap

 
If your spouse is going back to school, do something too...take a course, show that you also wanna improve

If your spouse starts working out and being health-conscious, start too. (He/She is looking younger while you are looking/acting older than your age)

If your spouse starts making a lot of money, work hard too (This applies to men especially. it's not a competition, but you don't wanna be seen as a lazy pest)

Let your spouse's interests, interest you...update yourself on his/her field so that he/she feels comfortable discussing these things with you. 

You are married to a Medical Doctor and you don't know what a catheter is.
Your husband is a football/soccer FANATIC and you don't even know the club he supports.
Your spouse is a minister and you are always the last to get to church. 

Most people have no idea what their spouses' jobs entail

When you see your spouse down or unhappy, ask what is wrong and what you can do to help

Step out of your comfort zone and out of the everyday routine. Break the cycle of boredom…find a new activity you can enjoy together with your spouse.

I speak peace to every ailing marriage in Jesus' name