Truth Is Bitter

When I was a little boy, Chloro-quine was the medication for Malaria. It was sooooooo bitter that kids would throw it away while pretending to have taken it. Some kids would be forced to take it and they would end up throwing up. Even adults didn't like it and would do anything to avoid it. 

My mum had a method, she would put the pill inside "eba" for us to swallow and add "draw soup" to aid the transition. This way she got the job done without messing up our taste buds.

Dear married man/woman, it is true that communication is KEY in marriage...but communication doesn't end at WHAT you say. HOW you say it, is also VERY CRUCIAL. I'm sure we have all heard the saying "THE TRUTH IS BITTER". So the next time you have to tell your spouse the truth, treat it like Chloro-quine...make it palatable, by doing it in/with love. 

More than 80% of marital conflicts (evolving from communication) come from "How he/she said it" not "what he/she said". You don't have to make your spouse feel like a fool or a child in the name of telling him/her the truth.

If it was the other way round, how would you like to be told? 

"Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone" Col 4-6.

Be careful what you say when you are angry...I actually tell people that the best time to keep quiet is when you are angriest.

Don't use words as a weapon, use them as a balm

Say exactly what you mean...don't use parables or ambiguities that can be misinterpreted or misconstrued.

It is well with our marriages and homes in Jesus' name.