An itsy bitsy teeny tiny pain to take away a longer, more intense pain. I'm sure you have.
The same thing happens in relationships and courtships. The fear of breaking up and/or heartbreak make people stay in DEAD-END relationships. Finding yourself in a dead end relationship may not necessarily be your fault and it can be incredibly difficult to accept that it's over. However, it is your fault when you KNOW and do nothing about it.
For some people, they know the marital future is bleak... but the fear of starting all over again and/or the thought of time and resources invested, make them stay anyways. The truth is, there is only one LEGITIMATE exit and it is before entering into the marriage (in this case, that is if marriage even comes). Cry a little now, to avoid a lifetime of sadness and regrets.
Start afresh now, to avoid a lifetime of emptiness.
How do I know I am in a dead-end relationship?
He never remembers anything about you
You have not met his friends
You are the one always making plans, he can never be bothered
Your life goals are mutually exclusive
Every argument turns nasty
Mutual respect is off the table
No reference whatsoever to a future with the two of you in it
You hardly talk...every conversation is awkward
You feel you over-sacrifice, with no reciprocation
It's a 'NO FAMILY' relationship. You don't know his family, neither does he know yours
The only thing appealing about the relationship is the convenience
You fight more than you laugh
Your views and opinions about each other are changing in a negative way...things that were once 'cute/adorable' are becoming 'annoying/obnoxious'
"Stop spending time beating on a wall hoping it will transform into a door" -Unknown
"Rock bottom is a good solid ground, and a dead end street is just a place to turn around" -Unknown
The pain of a failed relationship is nothing compared to that of a failed marriage. When you find yourself going the wrong route, the only solution is turning back...moving faster won't make it right, parking on the shoulder and giving up won't change anything either. It doesn't matter how far you've gone in the wrong direction, unless you are changing destination, the solution is to TURN BACK. This is for someone stuck in a wrong or dead-end relationship/courtship...you know in your heart of hearts that it will not end up well, the spirit of God is nudging you that you have to get out but the thought of starting over scares you. Your investment in the relationship is tying you down... I know it's hard but please, take the shot/injection NOW. The pain is nothing compared to what lies ahead.
Remember, "Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?" - Amos 3:3
Look before you leap, you will not "shi-marry" in Jesus' name
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