I found this piece on nairaland.com under the title “30
Rules Married women Must Obey”. I later found it on Facebook with the title “30
rules for all married women”…it seemed interesting because the ‘sharer’ had
added Bible verses to it. It was an interesting read, so I tweaked it and
decided to share it under a similar title.
30 GOLDEN NUGGETS FOR ALL MARRIED WOMEN
1). Never raise your voice, for any
reason, at your husband. It’s a sign of disrespect. “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”
-Proverbs 15v1
2). Do not expose your husband's
weaknesses to your family and friends (unless it is abuse). Cover him; you are
covering your home.
3). Never use attitudes and moods to
communicate to your husband; you never know how your husband will interpret
them. “Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up” - Proverbs 12: 25
4). Never compare your husband with
other men; you have no idea what their life is all about.
5). Never ill-treat your husband's friends
because you don't like them…use discretion, the person who's supposed to get
rid of them is your husband. “As a ring of gold in a swine's snout so
is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion” - Proverbs 11:22
6). Never forget that your husband
married you, not your maid or anyone else. BE to him a wife. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be
joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh” -Gen 2:24
7). Never delegate your “wife-ly”
duties. People may help in other areas but your husband is your PERSONAL
responsibility
8). Never scorn your husband if/when he
comes back home empty-handed. Rather encourage him.
9). Never be a wasteful wife, your
husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10). Never pretend to be sick for the
purpose of denying your husband sex
11). Never compare your husband to your
one time sex-mate in the bedroom. “…My beloved is dazzling and ruddy,
Outstanding among ten thousand” - Song of Solomon 5:9-10
12). Never bring disrepute to your husband
in public. “Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his
seat among the elders of the land” - Proverbs 31:23
13). Never yell at or challenge your
husband in front of the children
14). Strife for Excellence as a wife. “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames
him is like rottenness in his bones” - Proverbs 12:4
15). Never allow your friends to be too
close to your husband. Where I’m from, it’s called ‘overfamiliarity’.
16). Never disregard your looks…being
married is not a license for sloppiness.
17). Never discount your husband’s
opinion in an “in your face” or “imma do what I want” way. Don’t put him below anyone
(parents, siblings, friends, family) in your “opinion-seeking hierarchy”. Let
him know that his opinion matters even if you have to go another route.
18). Having more money doesn’t switch
the balance. Earning more than him does not automatically make you the husband.
19). Never starve your husband of
attention…be his listening ears, never be too busy to listen to him
20). Anytime you have a better idea,
don’t make him look stupid. Everyone has their area of expertise
21). Don't be too judgmental, instead
let your words edify your husband. “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your
mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of
the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear” – Ephesians 4:29
22). Say NO to laziness, the words wife
and mother hardly go well with the word lazy. “She gets up while it is still night; she
provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.” – Proverbs 31:15
23). Cook what your husband likes (in
as much as it doesn’t affect his health negatively).
24). Take life one day at a time; don’t
put unnecessary pressure on your husband. Enjoy every moment/resource as it
comes.
25). Be hospitable; not just to your
husband but to everyone entering your home. “…and is well known for her good deeds,
such as bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the
Lord's people, helping those in trouble and devoting herself to all kinds of
good deed” – 1 Timothy 5:10
26). Don't associate with women who
have diverging views of marriage.
27). Value your marriage, the value you
place on it is the value others will give it. “Marriage should be honored by all…” - Hebrews 13:4
28). Children are a blessing from the
Lord, love your children and train them in the way they should go. “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older,
they will not leave it” - Proverbs 22:6
29). Don’t ever outgrow your responsibilities in the home. Never abandon your care
for your family for any reason. “She watches over the affairs of her
household and does not eat the bread of idleness” -Proverbs 31:27
30). A prayerful wife is a better-equipped wife, pray always for
your husband and family. “Pray without ceasing” - 1 Thessalonians 5:17
P.S. I’m not sure who the original writer is.
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